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Guided Play Workshops



Mistress Schari Now Has HER OWN Private Session Room in Middlesex County.

I will also be taking Sessions by Phone/Video appointments during this health crisis.

Please contact me for rates, and check out the new 2020 Quarantine Collection of Products.

*Purchase an App-Controlled Toy for a more personalized session & enjoy a special discount.

As always, in-person appointments will be considered in my Middlesex County location at MY discretion.

Fill out a session application here.

Mistress Schari is expanding her services to include private coaching and consultation for couples and individuals. Mistress Schari has a diverse experience as a life-coach both in and out of the BDSM community. So many friends have come to her for advice in both the BDSM and Swinger communities that she now is offering this same expertise to anyone who feels they would benefit from it. Please call or message Mistress Schari to inquire further.

Fees for private consultations and services range from $25 an hour to $350 an hour depending upon the services requested.

Mistress Schari is based out of Northwest New Jersey, but travels throughout NJ, eastern PA and surrounding areas.

Private Couples Consultation

Private Couples Coaching is available with Mistress Schari by appointment. During coaching Mistress Schari will help to create open dialogue between you and your partner to make sure that you are both on the same page. She can also teach you both technique, protocols, and how to help each of you grow further into your roles. Depending on your needs this coaching can be done on-site at M. Schari's private session room in Morris County, NJ, your own home*, or another agreed upon location*.    *Travel fees may apply.

So You Want to Swing?

This is Mistress Schari's MOST POPULAR couples consultation. Many couples take an interest in swinging but do not know how to begin or how to navigate the often tricky waters associated with swinging. M. Schari can help you with setting up guidelines for you and your partner designed to evolve as needed. She can also help you to recognize and avoid the common pitfalls that often arise with swinging. M. Schari has over 14 years of personal experience and her husband is also available to be part of the consultation to better assist you both with your goals.

Pro Domme/ Pro Sub Sessions

Pro Domme Service are available for both individuals and couples. Mistress Schari subscribes to the more sensual side of BDSM and requires a consultation before any services are booked. She can teach individuals how to embrace their submissive roles as well as help other dominants perfect their own strengths and confidence. For properly vetted individuals, Pro-Sub Services are available, please inquire directly. Should Mistress Schari be unable to fulfill your request or educational needs and desires, she is perfectly happy and able to refer you to a professional colleague who can.

Please fill out a Session Application in preparation for your session.

Couples Parties

All workshops, group classes, sex toy purchasing parties, and even consultations can be organized and arranged as a group dynamic. Host with your friends, book clubs, and communities of all kinds. These parties can be customized to suit your needs whether they be educational, social or just for a dam good time! Check out the NEW Dirty Dinner Party exclusive to her.

Sex Toy Parties

Mistress Schari continues to work for the world's largest in-home party company specializing in relationship-enhancing products, as she has for the last 12 years. These parties are fantastic educational and social gatherings for adult women and couples. Hostesses can earn FREE products for hosting a Girls Night In, Bachelorette Party, Single Again Party, Anniversary, or any other theme you can think of!

Private Lifestyle Coaching

Sometimes as we explore new communities and desires it can be very confronting. Mistress Schari has been involved in a life-coach capacity for almost 25 years. Her training as a coach in both the personal and workplace environments make her uniquely qualified to coach both in and out of the lifestyle communities.

Training was received through Landmark Education beginning in 1988 through the present.

What Our Clients Are Saying

We can't thank you enough for your time and patience in helping us navigate through this very new world. Your knowledge and  non-judgemental attitude coupled with your sense of humor put us immediately at ease, thank you.

Melissa K. - Hopatcong, NJ

What Our Clients Are Saying

You are the most wonderful woman, we cannot wait till our Thursday date nights every week now. You've changed our outlook and my therapist would like to meet you!

Mike & Brenda - South Jersey

What Our Clients Are Saying

Thank you so much for your class on Friday. I cannot believe how much our relationship has changed from your 2 hour class.....This past weekend was the first time I've become that primal and aggressive. A very long time to become grounded. We found so much value in the class. If the couple that missed it don't want a refund my partner and I will take their

Pam & Dan - Bridgewater, NJ