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Mischief Matters

Mistress Schari IS fully vaccinated including updated boosters for Covid-19.
Please contact me for tributes, and check out the new Collection of Products.
In-Person appointments will be considered in Morris County at MY discretion.

Mistress Schari is also ordained to be able to perform all ceremonies including Wedding, Collaring, and Memorial, send her a message at for more details. All 2024-25 classes are being scheduled in accordance with current health guidelines and restrictions. Workshops, Classes, & Private Sessions are open to ALL genders and ALL sexual orientations, unless otherwise specified.


Mistress Schari Has Her Own Private Session Dungeon in Morris County, NJ

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Below is a list of courses offered by Mischief Matters.

Mistress Schari has had the pleasure of teaching her classes across the country at several events and venues, like: EXXXXXOTICA, TesFest, Naughty N'awlins, Naughty Noel, Brimstone, The Colosseum (NYC), Exotic Fantasies, E.P.I.C., The Paradise Club (PA), as well as a variety of local munches and groups.

Mistress Schari's Signature Class

The Accidental Domme is a one hour intensive workshop for anyone who finds it difficult to dominate their partner. You know, because you are nice! Dominating your partner is easier than you think and especially if this is new to you, you might be struggling with how to be assertive when you aren't. Mistress Schari is going to help y​ou discover your inner bitch, it's so much easier than you think, so easy in fact, she only needs an hour to tell you about it!

This workshop is open to ALL genders, sexual orientations, and lifestyles. Mistress Schari's Signature lecture.


"Keep playing those mind games forever, raising the spirit of peace and love..." - John Lennon

Mental sadism exists because emotional authenticity is sexy! The largest sex organ is our brain, responsible for both the mental and physical sides of sex, BDSM, and other lifestyle relationships. This discussion will focus on how mind games can build emotional integrity and vulnerability to your relationships. Did you know that "using your powers for good" can add creativity, balance, build trust, increase intimacy, and be great fun? BDSM doesn't always have to be about pain, physical implements, restraints, and scene setting. Mental BDSM can include but is certainly not limited to edge play, chastity, anticipation, humiliation, degradation, tease & denial, and sensory deprivation. Mental sadism is also a wonderful way for participants with physical disabilities to employ their dominance and their submission. When using mind games it is important that consent be present at all times. As S&M themes continually become more and more mainstream there is a distinct difference between playing mind games and manipulation, we will also touch on the harmful and destructive behaviors that should be avoided. Like many aspects of BDSM it is a journey filled with many highs and lows. Join me for this in depth discussion on the "highs" of practicing mental sadism.

Our newest class- taught by Mistress Schari and Catnip_boi

The Kink in Your Kitchen is an 80 minute romp through every room in your home discovering all the dungeon equipment you already own!  Mistress Schari has opened 3 dungeons of her own for professional use, she knows how to budget, repurpose, and re-imagine items you already own.  Kink is expensive, this is not a secret, but many think in order to be taken seriously you need to own "real" dungeon equipment.  This is not the case! Many things you already have in your possession can be converted to a "pervertable". A pervertable is any regular object that can then be used as a kinky implement, fetish furniture, outfit, restraint, punishment, funishment, the list goes on and on.  So take lots of notes as we turn your home into the Ultimate Den of Debauchery.


Pegging is one of the most requested acts of a Pro-Domme, but its far from limited to just the pros. Pegging by definition is, "penetrative sex with a strap-on dildo, usually anal penetration. It is usually defined as a heterosexual practice in which a woman penetrates the anus of a man. This definition of pegging is very centered around cisgender and heterocentric identities. However, anyone can be penetrated anally regardless of their genitals or gender." (thank you Wikipedia).

(EM)Powerful Pegging as taught by Mistress Schari is a class that not only teaches pegging technique but the mental and emotional desires behind it for both participants. There is both pleasurable and therapeutic value to pegging for the peggee and even for the pegger. We will also cover different types of harnesses, strap-on dildos, buzzing peggers, hygiene, and other useful paraphernalia. Join us to learn for yourself or take notes for a future partner.


Transformational Beauty Intensive is for ANYONE interested in celebrating Femininity. This workshop is for Crossdressers, Gender Benders, Cis/Trans Women, and their Partners, but anyone wishing to enhance their femininity are encouraged to attend.

There is so much more to being a woman, than just looking like one. To embody a woman, one must radiate feminine behaviors, posture, nuances, and individual style. This comprehensive workshop will include the following:

  • How to walk & properly wear high heels, including sitting and posture.

  • How to find your individual style (clothes, wigs, colors).

  • How to do your make-up for everyday. Including helpful tips and how-to's. Some written materials on this subject will be given to each participant. This is for practical and sustainable make-up lessons, not stage make-up.

  • How to find and get fitted correctly for under-garments.

  • How to use proper table manners and etiquette.

  • Socializing and meeting peers with similar interests as you.

This workshop is taught by Mistress Schari, pro-Domme and owner of Mischief Matters. Mistress Schari is a former fashion executive and licensed make-up artist and waxer (waxing is available by appointment only).


Cost: $135.00+tax per person (group pricing available)


*This workshop is also offered as a cock worship workshop a.k.a. COCK AND AWE for a more intense and lifestyle oriented instruction. It can also be modified to include all genders and sexual orientations by request.

The Fellatio Fundamentals Workshop developed by women for women is designed to empower you. Until very recently the only way for a woman to obtain knowledge about these things was through male-targeted pornography. With my workshop you will learn to impress your partner with new techniques in both manual and oral stimulation by receiving "hands-on" instruction using a life-like prop. The workshop is not about "servicing" someone, but rather how to build intimacy and confidence through a safe, shared and sensual experience. And while you may be thinking, I am already good at this, or I’ve never had any complaints before, here’s a chance to upgrade your skills and learn something new. You upgrade your phone don’t you, so why not upgrade your oral sex skills? And at least when he asks where you learned it, you'll have a receipt as proof!

For the Fellatio Fundamentals Workshop Mistress Schari comes to your location and holds the workshop for you with a minimum of 6 participants.


High Protocol Service Training As a High Protocol Domme, Mistress Schari (who was trained in the Old Guard ways) has designed a class that will teach you the techniques of a high protocol submissive. High Protocol Service is applauded for its elegance and effortless execution. A high-protocol submissive completes their tasks with elegance and pride, and by extension fills those they serve with pride as well. This class is good for any level and will cover the distinction between rules and protocols, common sub/slave positions, tasks, and presentation.

Open to all genders and lifestyles. This class also provides excellent training for unattached submissives who are looking for a dominant partner, because displaying these skills may attract what they are looking for. This workshop is also recommended for Dominants wishing to hone their skills to better train their own. Available as a classroom workshop, staff training, or private instruction.

MAKING OF A MISTRESS The Business of Becoming a Domme- Available online as a download for $50.00,

I never claim to be the best Dominatrix or that I know everything about being one. I do however know what it's like to build my Domme business from the ground up with no money. I am often asked by other women to mentor and teach them to become a Pro-Domme. That kind of collaboration takes a lot of time and energy that not everyone is willing to give. So in response to "how do I get started?",  I have developed a set of guidelines that are easy to follow and implement. The Making of a Mistress will teach you how to safely support and conduct yourself. This is your chance to hear how I did it, where I plan on taking it, and how you can start your own too. Grab your notebook, it's time to take notes.

Available for download, please inquire within by emailing Mistress Schari at

DON'T BE A D!*K! Lifestyle Etiquette, Respect, and Decency: taught by the incomparable Catnip_boi

Catnip will go over a basic introduction to public play etiquette and the rules of social events. They will also include a "how-to" for arranging and participating in public play, watching scenes, and enjoying your time while respecting others and their boundaries. They will discuss the benefits of using a wristband system and how vetting for events works throughout the kink community. Catnip will also do a brief explanation of personal pronouns and how to navigate not knowing an individual's gender identity. If you are new to the kink scene or have been away from it for a while, or have never attended public events before, then we encourage you to attend this class. It's a great refresher for seasoned players as well.


One of us is Vanilla and the other is Kinky... HELP!?!?!?!

Our Kinks are So Different... HELP!?!?!?!

Kink Sounds Fun, but We Don't Know What to do... HELP!?!?!?!

If this describes your dynamic, this is the workshop for you!

My exclusive Sensual Sado-Masochism Workshop is an in-depth guided play workshop designed to help each partner fulfill their partners' needs. Through this workshop I will help each of you find your comfort level as you begin your journey to provide the satisfaction each partner craves.

Through this workshop you will understand the significance of touch coupled with light sensual bondage. You will learn how to use dialogue to tease. You will experience how both mental and physical sadism can increase desire and intensity.

My Sensual Sado-Masochism Workshop is unique in that you are actually guided through a play experience. Your comfort level is paramount and all couples are welcome to interact at their own pace. For some, this may mean partial or full nudity and may result in uninhibited expression. I recommend this workshop especially for newer couples beginning their lifestyle journey. However, seasoned couples who enjoy exhibitionism or are just beginning to experiment with it will benefit greatly as well. It is also an excellent alternative to a weekend play party that may not fit your schedule or comfort level... just yet. 

Open to all genders and lifestyles. This is a 3 hour interactive workshop designed for couples- ANY KIND OF COUPLING IS WELCOME.


Mistress Schari is looking forward to presenting this class at this year's TesFest 2023!

So you have read the book or seen the movie... now what? Mistress Schari will teach you how to keep 50 Shades in your bedroom and out of the ER!!

My Kink Class for Couples is your perfect opportunity to do something as a couple to spice up your love life and have fun in the process. The couples workshop is designed for those of you who wish to take it to the next level through safe, sane and consensual play. Take it up a notch with the NEW Dirty Dinner Party you can host at your home.

Taught by both trained professionals and experienced players within the BDSM community, this class covers basic BDSM etiquette, language, technique, and tools. You will have the opportunity to learn about BDSM play and practices through a tastefully demonstrated presentation and interactive experience comfortable for all levels and all genders.

My Kink Class for Couples can be offered as your own couples party where we bring the presentation to you and your guests for a truly unique experience (a minimum of 8 people required for all off-site locations).


Switches & Unicorns, They Do Exist! Yes they do! As a switch, known professionally as both Mistress Schari and Sub S, we will discuss this very real phenomenon. If you think you might be a switch, if you know you are, or if you both are then this is an excellent training for you. Find out what it means to play on both sides and how to handle others disbelief that you can genuinely be both. Furthermore we will examine what it means to find, be, and/or care for the elusive unicorn. By definition a unicorn is a 3rd partner who can seamlessly maneuver between the two primary partners without wanting more or inciting jealousy. A rarity in the lifestyle but a treasured gem nonetheless.


Below is a list of different topics of discussion that have been done and can be modified to suit your group's needs:

  • Hashtag: BDSM in the age of #metoo & social networks.

  • Brunch & BDSM: How to hide it in vanilla society.

  • Swinging: the highs and lows.

  • In Pictures: BDSM & the movies & pop culture.


The following is a list of workshops currently being developed for this Fall, 2023:

  • Aftercare

  • Dating a Pro-Domme

  • Dungeon Design Consultation

  • Kinknicity!- Finding your authentic self through BDSM and how it can gain you access to personal healing and growth.

Contact Mistress Schari at for more information.


Mischief Matters is committed to safe, sane and consensual instruction for all our participants.

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